Carnegie Mellon University

Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationships allow both people to:

  • Have fun and grow together
  • Feel like you can be yourself
  • Maintain honesty, trust and good communication
  • Build friendship and respect
  • Handle conflict appropriately
  • Have accountability, partnership and dedication
  • Feel comfortable with the level of physical activity, whether that means kissing, touching, and/or having intercourse

Is it abuse?

Learning what abusive behavior is can help you recognize the warning signs and stay safe.  A relationship might be headed in an unsafe direction if a partner is:

  • Checking your cell phone or email without permission
  • Constantly putting you down
  • Showing extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Exploding in anger
  • Isolating you from family or friends
  • Making false accusations
  • Having extreme mood swings
  • Physically hurting you in any way
  • Acting possessive
  • Telling you what to do
  • Repeatedly pressuring you to have sex